Things to be a fan of: Community over Competition

You’ve heard it all before. Probably more than once. “Peggy Sue is only doing this because I am” or “Seriously? I was doing it first so Karen can find something else to do” blah blah blah. Some people can’t get over themselves enough to just live their own life, that they have to crap all over someone else’s happiness. You know what’s pretty awesome? Acceptance…and being an adult. One thing that I am a huge fan of is Community over Competition, and you should be, too.

Let me set a hypothetical situation for you. So you started a blog. That’s amazing! You found something you really enjoy and you’re going after it. You’re so excited about your new venture that you tell your “bestie for the restie” about it. They decide that they may try blogging and see how they like it. They also think that it would be something fun that y’all can do together. Why not, right? It turns out they have found they’re passion and they can’t believe what a huge stress reliever it is to just word vomit all over the internet and have some other person relate to what they are saying. Your bestie tells you, “hey friend! I have started a blog to see what all the fuss is about and I really like this creative outlet.” Hearing this news, you get angry, ANGRY, instead of joining in on the fun. Over someone else making a blog. That thousands of other people have also done.

Do you see how ridic that sounds?

COMMUNITY OVER COMPETITION, Y’ALL! This is 2018. So someone else has started doing something that you are doing. You are going to live. I promise. It is not the end of the world. You know what you should be doing? Being happy that someone else has found something that that they enjoy. Getting upset over Peggy Sue deciding to give whatever you’re doing a shot is the most middle school reaction you could probably have.

There is room for everyone. Whatever that person is doing is going to be in their own way. You’re going to have your own style of doing things. Getting upset over something so tiny is only affecting you, not the person you’re upset about. Don’t waste the energy on being upset when you could be using that energy towards something positive.

What we should be doing is standing up and cheering each other on. Do you see something that someone may need help on? Help them and be happy to do it. As the saying goes, “a candle loses nothing by lighting another candle.” You will never be upset about helping someone or cheering them on, but you will be upset later on down the road about a friendship that is no longer there because you thought you were supposed to be the only one in the world doing something.

For those of you that are the ones on the other side of things, the ones that are being made as the “followers” or the “copycats,” ignore the pettiness. I know that it’s easier said than done, bit try your hardest. Remember the wise words of Eleanor Roosevelt, “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” It’s true. Do you love what you are doing? Do you love blogging? Do you love posting your daily outfits on Instagram? Do you love making art whether it be in the form of drawing pictures, painting, music, or taking photos? KEEP GOING.

Do not let someone else’s irrelevant opinion of what you are doing keep you from doing the one thing that makes you happy. Their opinion of you says more about them than it does about you. They did not invent blogging, taking pictures of outfits, or whatever type of art you love to create. And nothing you do will ever be the same as theirs. You will have your own individual way of doing things. As long as it makes you happy, go for it. I look forward to seeing your creativity.



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